Why are we so insecure about ourselves!

A few days back ago, one of my college mates had posted a video of her dancing on one of the trending songs. She deleted that post within a couple of minutes. Why did she do that?
If she liked something to the level that she felt like posting it on social media, then what compelled her to delete it?

Another story. One of my friends shares her reels/TikTok videos on WhatsApp status. But she always does a similar thing, where she removes that video after 10-15 minutes.

I observed her doing this multiple times. So one day out of curiosity I asked her, “why do you delete your videos within minutes, they’re good and you should keep them so that people can appreciate them”. To this, she replied, ” thanks for your kind words but I get a bit insecure about what people will think of me if I regularly put those statuses, also I keep them for a few minutes to see how many people reply; if good responses come then I keep it for 24 hours”

Her reply left me awestruck and curious at the same time. It made me think about the standards we’ve imposed on ourselves to fit into the checkboxes created by social media/society.

These two incidents might seem normal to us, but they show the harsh reality of us trying to become someone else, someone else who fits into the ridiculous standards of likes, comments, and shares.

I believe, It’s okay to follow those footprints that everybody is following but in doing so, we’ve to keep track of who we really are and where do we really belong. We all have insecurities; I myself have many. But letting them destroy our real selves is not a good idea.

Don’t let anyone tell you where do you belong and how you should live your life, what to post and what not to, how to dress and how not to. Do not let anyone tell you about the right color or size. It’s your life, make your own standards and live by them.

And in this case, I would like to recall a thing said by Steven Furtick, “The reason we struggle with insecurity is that we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlighted reel”.

11 thoughts on “Why are we so insecure about ourselves!

  1. Great and poignant article. Social media can exacerbate some of our insecurities because of constant online comparisons. Like you stated, it is not a true reflection of everyone’s reality and this is something we all have to keep reminding ourselves. 😁👍

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  2. Real talk. I think some people forget that they actually deserve to be here. God does not make mistakes, and that is a fact!!!! People are insecure because they believe that a specific quality of life is tied to a particular look. They think if they look like a supermodel, they are a fit, and give off a great vibe. However, I have realized that just because someone looks good does not mean that they are happy. Sometimes, you will be richer, happier, more blessed, and more accomplished than the attractive person that you are jealous of, without even realizing it, and then you might forget to thank God for what he has done for you. We also need to root ourselves in the word of God, and truly know why we are here. We are the light of God, his representatives here on earth, so why hide when you have so much light in you. This is a great post.

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    1. I agree with you from the core of my heart. Thanks for sharing your views. I got a big smile after reading this because it’s soothing to know that people are getting aware of this thing. More power to you❤️

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  3. How true this is. Our attention gets drawn to the one burning ember but we fail to notice the ash heap behind it. While this burning ember can ignite passion, it is usually our behind the scene reel that acts as the ash to snuff its life giving force. It is up to us to cultivate this inner ember to ignite inner passion, not just what will feed an immediate need for a proverbial like. Thank you for sharing and I look forward to reading more of your work.

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